A College Degree at Home
A
College Degree at Home
When
I got out of prison (I chose to leave this in because it's a part of my testimony-if you can't stand that I was in prison then don't follow me this post was originally written for those in prison but can be for anyone) I already had applied for a federal pell grant
and soon after I was on my way to a college degree in Multimedia
technology I dreamed about creating a video game that educated young
people on prison life in a way that would impact and inform them to
not ever want to live a life that would lead up to prison time. I was
very uninformed and so I thought this would be a good thing to do. I
even got a job at the college working for a biologist as a teachers
assistant. Life seemed perfect.
Sooner
than later I realized as I spent more time in class studying the
bible and working on newsletters that I wasn't interested in
webdesign and computer art and graphics I was an ok artist but some
of these young kids were brilliant I barely grasped the subject
content yet they seemed to thrive in it. I was bored, dismayed and
discouraged. A month into my job and each time I had to do my
timecard I struggle on how to calculate a fraction from the time it
was and being very prideful in nature I didn't think to just ask the
biology teacher for help so she accused me of cheating on my time
card and I walked out on the job.
During
this time I also made a friend I met at church and AA who I was
beginning to really like and praying he maybe the one I'd been
praying for a godly man and husband. We read through the book of
Daniel and he was definitely different from the guys i'd previously
dated who said they were christians but he didn't have to tell me it
was in his actions, words and deeds that I seen and I fell in love
with this man. We were both new Christians and we did a stupid thing
by trusting our flesh to be alone with each other late at night it
ended up the results of our very first miracle from God our son
Joseph Edsell Jr. born on July 19th,
2010. Before I found out I was pregnant November 14th,
2009. Joseph had asked me to move in with him around september 2009 I
really wanted to because we spent all of our time together but I new
from past experience as of recent being a new christian we needed to
be married first and so October 31st
on halloween day he proposed to me and I excitedly accepted and
decided that was good enough for me to move in with him.
I
continued college until I was about a 6 months pregnant and couldn't
do it any longer the pain of being so swollen, the nauseau and
constant bathroom breaks became too much for me to keep up with the
college work. God definitely changed the desires of my heart you see
because I never wanted to be a mom before I was a christian. He
changed my heart from the inside out. If you ever have a chance to
look at my before and after pictures you will know what I'm talking
about I might even publish them so you can see what I mean. After
J.J. Was born we decided to have another child as soon as he started
walking and David Jackson Fincher was born April 2nd,
2012.
I
was convinced I was still suppose to go to college and decided to go
back for business management when David was still using a bottle. We
tried having a sitter but she dropped David in front of me so yeah
that didn't work out and then we enrolled them in a day care center
but I noticed a difference in David's expressions or lack of and he
seemed very distant I prayed for God's plans and hand over these
plans but felt restless. Although I loved the time at the college
free from children I couldn't help thinking is this the right choice
for me and for them. Joseph also started college to get his GED so we
were both at the college. One day as I dropped off David I felt so
unsettled with the teacher as she didn't even acknowledge me being
there her face was blank kind of like how David's had been lately and
I went and talked to the school director of this behavior by the lady
she actually accused me of being the problem and after a very
stressful time I couldn't do it this facilities treatment torwards us
and her rude behaviour I knew my precious David would suffer being in
her care and I knew I needed to stay home with the boys at this
point. Maybe a year later I even tried taking classes at home and
again it just didn't work as I couldn't keep up with the work load
and demand.
During my 5 years as a wife, mom, and stay at home
manager of our house I can honestly say what I have learned surpasses
a college degree in knowledge and life skill applications. I don't
regret it or desire being in college anymore instead i've come to
desire what the Lord's plans are for me as I know Father knows best.
I
haven't lost my thirst for knowledge and continue to learn in the
fields of financial management, budgetting, frugal living, crockpot
cooking, homemade cooking, I make homemade laundry soap, time
management, prioritizing, balancing cooking, cleaning, me time, with
children and hubby and finding the time to write, pray, study and
read in the bible. Let's just say with my college degree at home
I'll never stop learning something new and I'll always have a job to
complete with my new knowledge learned.
If
you would like to learn some of these skills please join me on fb and
my website when you get out (for those in prison) and I will answer your questions and you
can read all the posts i've written along the way. For any new moms and struggling woman I'd be happy to share with you what i've learned and just offer you Godly and moral friendship and support.
Have a Blessed Month in Christ's Love,
Kim
Fincher
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| Family picture March 2014 |
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| September 2009 Joseph & Kim Fincher A New Love |